Altered my brain chemistry…
I hopped on the Let Them bandwagon recently, a recommendation from my son, and I will never look back.
Mel Robbins has changed my life, “truly, madly, deeply.”
She proselytizes the value of relieving your heart’s and mind’s burden when other people don’t meet your expectations or do you dirty. She says, “Let them.” Because it is not about you or your value; it is about them and their shitty mores.
My youngest son is very self-absorbed and often rude when it comes to thinking about others. I can text and call, but I won’t hear from him for months, and I know that boy is on his phone and sees that I have reached out. Heavens to Betsy, he is just like his paternal contributor in this manner.
It drives me insane! I seethe and get physically bothered by this because I am the complete opposite. I am a doormat when it comes to accommodating others. (Except perhaps my hubby). I go painfully out of my way to make sure everyone is happy, but him?! He goes comfortably out of his way to do what feels good for him and to do what is in his best interests.
During one of his “episodes” last month, I was so angry over something I had planned for three months, and he basically gave me the one-finger wave again. My wise and thoughtful middle son said, “Mom, just let him.”
I had yet to read of the theory and tried to share why I was so upset, to which he repeated the phrase, “Mom, let him.”
Damn. Now I know and understand. It doesn’t matter why he does what he does. Why he dismisses me. Why he is rude to me. It. Does. Not. Matter. “Let him.”
And the opposite to that is the “Let me” theory. “Let me” not seethe, not worry, not grapple with what he does or why he does them. “Let me” be in the moment and enjoy who I am with and what I am doing. “Let me” feel peaceful and settled.
Mel, you done set my world afire!
As I endlessly apply for jobs, “let them” miss out on my awesomeness. As my steps do things I don’t agree with, “let them.” As some of my siblings do not prioritize getting together, “let them.”
This concept has changed my heart and my teeth clenching! Thank you, Mel Robbins, for putting into layperson’s terms what is simple and logical. You have altered my DNA.
So, if you don’t like this blog? “Let them.”
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